Below you will see an article from the May 2013 edition of our church newsletter, The Spire. I felt the need to republish it here so that I could link it to our soon-to-be new website!
Dear church family,
I do believe that the
ability to create dialogue is the most incredible Superpower that we have as
human beings. No other creature on earth
can participate in conversation the way that we can. Surely other species can signal to one
another about hunting and gathering or about the need to nurture their young,
and as research evolves I am awestruck by how the communication that goes on
between other species is far beyond what we originally thought possible. Regardless, we can be sure that human beings
are able to talk about issues that are infinitely more sophisticated and
intellectual than any other species.
What a blessing we have! Or is it
a curse?
Our Dialoguing
Superpower allows us to talk about deeply emotional issues with people who
disagree with us (e.g.: politics and religion; ways of raising children; the
definition of a “healthy” lifestyle).
And when we make the decision to use this Superpower, we have to make
another decision at the same time—will we let the alternate opinions of others make
or break our relationships with them? Though
at times it may seem difficult, the best decision is to allow differing
opinions to form and strengthen us as individuals. In college, for example, several courses in
Asian religions and belief systems made me more certain that Jesus was The Way
for me. My husband’s advocacy of plain
black coffee made me more certain that I take cream and sugar. My brother’s confidence that it doesn’t get
better than living in Washington D.C. prepared me to move to a small rural
town.
This all has a point
and is relevant to our current church context.
The Open and Affirming (ONA) process that has begun in our congregation
is a time when we are invited to put on our Superhero capes and become
Dialoguers. ONA is a designation given
to congregations which “make a
public covenant of welcome into their full life and ministry to persons of all
sexual orientations, gender identities, and gender expressions.” This is one of
those deeply emotional conversations, isn’t it?
But it is one that we have to have in the 21st century,
because the Church has a call to stay relevant and maintain a voice in the
conversations of our society. Since its
foundation, the Church (our own and the institution as a whole) has been at the
forefront of social justice and civil rights dialogue and now, in a time when
church conversations revolve around potlucks and building maintenance more
often than issues of caring for the marginalized and downtrodden, it’s time for
the First Congregational Church of Ripon to say once again, “Hold on, we have a
Superpower and we’re going to use it.”
When we use this Superpower, we won’t all agree. And that’s why we have to remember to make
the decision to allow differing opinions to form and strengthen us as
individuals. We will be a diverse
community of God’s children whether we agree or not. And that, in itself, is a gift; we learn
little when we are only exposed to those who agree with us. So for the next year and a half to two years,
we will occasionally get together and talk about becoming an ONA church. I want us all to feel free to put our true
opinions on the table in the form of healthy, respectful dialogue in which many
viewpoints are represented by speakers with open ears and open hearts. When we take the vote, it may pass and it may
not, but we can be assured that as a church we will have a voice in this
extremely important issue of our time, and that’s what makes us a strong, vital
part of the Body of Christ.
As we begin this process, there are a few points that I want to make
very clear. One: Your voice matters. I don’t
want to see anyone hiding in the shadows because they think their opinion is the
unpopular one. No one will be kicked out
of our church for a different opinion.
Which brings me to point two: There
is no pre-determined outcome of this vote. Whether our congregation votes
yes or no, we will emerge from the process a stronger church family for having
asked the question. Furthermore, we
will remain a church family that, like any other family, has differences and
disagreements but continues to be bound by love for each other and our common
desire to learn what it means to be Christian in a world that is always in
transformation. And finally I want to make point three: No
matter where you stand on the issue, I
am your pastor. That means I’m here
to listen when times are tough, show up in the toughest and most amazing times
of your life, and pray for your peace and well-being because I care deeply
about you. Please let me know if you
want to visit over coffee or in my office and have a conversation about the
process. I’m always glad to get to know
each of you better anyway!
With the hope and peace of May’s flowers,
Pastor Joanna